♪ [music] ♪ – [David Laroche] Hello. Today we are with a new guest. He is Larry. So, hello Larry. – [Larry Winget] Hello. – Larry Wingets. And I’ll let you to introduce yourself. – Sure, I’m Larry Winget. I am the author of five best-selling books. I’ve been speaking professionally for over 20 years. Had my own television show, appear regularly on many television shows in the United States on the topics of personal development, business, parenting and personal finance. – Yes. And thank you very much to answer my questions and it will help a lot of people I believe. – Okay. – My first question, it is when I discovered what you do, the first book it was, “Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life.” So, how to get a life? – Well, first of all, that’s the problem. Most people try to get a life before they shut up and stop whining. That’s why there’s an order to that. They’re out there, they’ve been told by motivational speakers, “You can do anything. You can have it all.” See, all that’s a lie. You can’t do anything. You can’t have it all. You have to choose. So, the first thing you have to do is shut up and pick what you want to do. And that’s one of the problems. Most people are so busy whining about their crappy lives and how bad they have it and all the problems that they’re dealing with, that they never take a moment, get quiet, look at themselves, look at their past, look at what they’re best at and really choose the kind of life they want to have. You also have to understand that before you can say “Yes” to a new life, you have to say “Oh, no” to your old life. You see, people are told again that they can do everything. No, you’re going to have to make some choices. So, this is what it takes to be successful, this is what it takes to get a life. Number one, take out three sheets of paper. On those three sheets of paper, I want it on the first sheet of paper, “No, there’s not an app for this.” I get asked that all the time. “Is there an app?” No. It’s three sheets of paper. On the first sheet of paper write down where you are in your life in terms of your finances, your relationships, where you are with your business, in your career, your work, your family. All those areas. – Okay. – And on the second sheet of paper write down where you want to be in each one of those areas. So, now you two sheets of paper. One describing the way it is and one describing where you want it to be. – Yes. – On the third sheet of paper, what I want you to do is to figure out what you’re going to give up to get from where you are to where you want to be. You see, that’s the step most people never take and that’s what most speakers never tell you. Most of the authors, most of those happy you-can-do-anything motivational speakers say, “You never have to give anything up.” That’s wrong. All success comes from giving up. It’s about sacrifice and that’s why most people are never going to be successful, because they’re never willing to sacrifice. You see, you don’t get successful, you give up what’s keeping you from being successful. You don’t get rich, you give up what’s making you broke. You don’t get skinny, you give up what’s making you fat. So, I focus a little differently. I have sort of a more negative approach. It’s about sacrificing and giving up in choices. – Okay. So, the first step is to define the A points and the second step the B points. And the third step, you have to define what you have to give up to be ready to go to the B point. That’s right? – That’s right. It’s about sacrifice, though. So, don’t think that you can have everything and be successful. It’s not about that. You’re going to have to establish some priorities in your life. The problem is, you know, people always say there’s not enough time. There is if you have priorities. Your time and your energy and your money always go to what’s important to you. And so I could track your time and I’d know what’s important to you, just on how you spend your time. I can track your money and I would know what’s important to you just on how you spend your money. So, if you have very clear priorities, that’s where your time will go, that’s where your energy will go, and that’s where all your your money will go. So, it really comes down to establishing priorities, what is the most important thing to you. And then I’ll be able to know what’s important to you based on how you spend your time and your money. And once you’ve established your priorities, then you have to say “No” to everything that gets in the way of those. – And a question about your journey… journeys. What did you give up to become successful? – Well, I had to give up watching too much television. I had to give up a lot of my friends who were dragging me down instead of building me up. I had to give up spending money on stupid things. I had to give up spending time on things that didn’t move me closer to where I wanted to be. First of all, figure out where you want to be and then realize that everything that moves you closer to where you want to be, that’s a smart thing. And everything that moves you farther away from where you want to be, that’s a stupid thing. You don’t get where you want to be doing stupid things. And that includes how you spend your time and the people you associate with and how you spend your money. And you have to get really tough on yourself and tough on those around you to say, “This is what’s important to me.” And then you have to give up those things that get in your way. – Okay. We are dealing with success and how to get it. I have a question. If there is only one, what could be the factor, the key factor of success? Or the common point of successful people? – The only one that really matters is that you are willing to do whatever it takes in order to get what you want. It’s that willingness to do what it takes. Most people are not willing to do what it takes. And the truly successful people are willing to do whatever it takes and they don’t make excuses. They don’t let other people or things get in their way. It’s they’re willing to do what it takes. – Okay. So, you know what you want and you are determined to get it. That’s right? – You have to have a very single-minded approach. This is what matters to me and that’s what I’m going after. – Okay. You have another book and I have a question about this book. It is “How to Stop to Sabotaging Yourself,” because it is a common practice to lose. How to stop that? – We sabotage our lives in lots of ways. When you look at what keeps people from being successful is they’re either ignorant, ignorance means you don’t know what to do. Well, that excuse didn’t fly for very long so [inaudible 00:06:47] So the problem is never that you don’t know what to do, it’s that you don’t do what you already know. So ignorance is not an excuse. Some people are stupid. That means they know what to do but they don’t take action on it. That’s where most people fall. They know what it takes to be successful, but they don’t take action on it. For instance, if people want to lose weight because they’re too fat, they know that they need to eat less and they need to exercise more. They know that, they don’t do that. So, why don’t they do that? Well, they’re either stupid or they’re lazy. And so laziness gets in our way and that’s kind of sad, when you know what to do and you’re too lazy to do it? I don’t even understand how people can be in that situation. So, we sabotage our success and we offer ourselves excuses and reasons why we can’t get things done and we buy into those excuses, we believe them. If you’re going to be successful, you have to go to the mirror every single day and you have to say, “I’m the cause of all my problems. I’m also the cause of all my success. Everything that’s going on in my life was caused by me. It was my thoughts and my words and my actions that created the life I’m living.” When you take responsibility at that level and you do it daily, not willing to blame anybody else for your circumstances, that’s when you start to become successful. – And you know I have some youths who are following me, and do you have some advices for youths to become successful and happy in this life? – Yep. I speak a lot to people who are younger and want to know what it takes to be successful. The first thing I would tell anybody regardless of their age is don’t look for someone else to take care of you. Don’t look for your government to take care of you. Don’t look for your parents to take care of you or your boss or your business, the place you work to take care of you. It’s up to you, it’s always up to you. I think one of the biggest problems we have in society, and doesn’t matter what country you come from, is that we have become very entitled and we want other people to take care of us because we are not willing to what it takes to take care of ourselves. That’s my most important message to tell the youth of the world today, is don’t expect other people to take care of you. Figure out what you have to do to take care of yourself. That means that you have to save your money. That means you have to work hard. That means that when your boss tells you to do something, you do that. That means that you give it everything you’ve got in every single area of your life, without excuse. ♪ [music] ♪
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