David Laroche: I have a question about integrity, what do you think about for example you know way to succeed, but you are not sure that it is maybe the good way, how to feel inside yourself, what you have do, because we are already good to lie to yourself, oh it is okay! How can we do to look t inside yourself how is true integrity with yourself and do the right actions, right about what is important for us?
David Gruder: What I find is that people, who do live at the intersection of what is right for me, what is right for us, and what is right for the world, cannot help but do the right thing in each moment. It is people who like I used to do much more than I do now, who only pay attention to one or two of the 3 dimensions of being a complete self, a whole and complete self that it is those people who struggle with what doing the right thing might look like. I think you asking me two questions; I think you are asking about how do people identify, what the right thing is to do? and the other is how do they have a frame work for success, yeah?
I can say more about the doing the right thing if you would like, but it is tied to my understanding of what success is.
David Laroche: Yeah, I would love to have your point of view.
David Gruder: Yeah so we have talked about authenticity connection and impact, as the 3 core drives that are connected to sustainable happiness and integrity intelligence, 3 dimensional integrity. If you consider those 3 dimensions as though they are horizontal integrity, there is another level of integrity that I call vertical integrity as well and the vertical integrity is where there is alignment, among my values, my vision, my personal mission, my ultimate goals in life, and the choices I make about what I do with my life in my career, in my service work etc., and when there is a vertical alignment among all of those aspects who I am, combined with my being a 3 dimensional self, that to me is two-thirds of the success formula, because people who are authentic connected an impactful and have that alignment among their values, their vision, their mission, their goals, and their life choices. These are people who report to me that they feel successful in their lives. No matter what amount of money they make or do not make, no matter what position in life they fill or do not fill, they experience themselves to be successful, and the third part of the success formula in addition to those 3 core drives, what I am calling right now the horizontal integrity and the vertical alignment, the vertical integrity, is persistent skilled action.
So when we have skilled persistence in pursuing and expressing that vertical alignment and being whole and complete as complete 3 dimensional selves, that to me is the success formula and the only thing that is missing in how I am describing that success formula is that in order to be persistent in the skills that I use that are in service of my vertical integrity, I need to be clear about having a framework, a road map, strategies, and mentoring that helps me continually expand and that holds me accountable for living in alignment for what I say my values and vision and mission and goals and purposes in the world are and helping me make sure that I am not neglecting one of my 3 aspects of a whole self. That to me is a success formula, horizontal integrity, vertical integrity, and persistent mentored skilled behaviour.
David Laroche: Great, great, I love the way you, I do not know how to say that in English, maybe it is a kind of system, I love the way you presents your idea it is great?
David Gruder: That is great, thank you.