Transcript of the interview of David Gruder
David Gruder: The first thing we did that we balanced your system in a global level, the second thing that we did was that we established internal permission to make the change that you want to make and the third thing that we would do, would be the actual make the change itself . So we could do that if you would like but it will take a little bit of the time.
David Laroche: How many minutes?
David Gruder: Five minutes it will be useful for the people. So I am going to take you through a series of points on your body that are acupuncture points, that you will be tapping on and why you are doing the tapping, you are going to be thinking a thought to yourself, that you will be repeating over and over again and before we start we have to come up with that statement that you will be making to yourself. So it is what is it that is the statement that simply acknowledges whatever the blockage that you have around anger. So how would you put that in to words, this reluctance to get over being angry or this desire to be in right relationship with my anger, how will you put you?
David Laroche: Like it’s a kind of goal.
David Gruder: Yeah
David Laroche: But I want to be able to change my perception when something happens and be able to switch very quickly, and construct something and build something with what happened. What is very important from there is to develop my ability to build something with everything happen and may be something were not predicted . If the card is full, now usually I feel anger, because I put a lot of money in this project and lot of energy and if something happened like I have some anger with myself and my goal is to be able to transform that and build a opportunity, literally I have good feeling that the ability to build something with everything, am I clear?
David Gruder: I think so; let me say back to you what I think I understand.
David Laroche: Yeah, just to, for like a short example, yesterday I was doing video in this room with background. And as the first time the battery of the record stopped. Second time I changed the battery, but the battery was low. I had to start again. And third time it was the cam recorder and the sound was…..
David Gruder: Was going down?
David Laroche: Yeah, going down and I haven’t a lot of time in the United States. I have a schedule to respect and I felt a lot of anger. After one or two hours, I succeeded to transform it and to switch and build may be the best video of the day. I was proud of that, and when I build something after a challenge, I love that. Am I clear? It’s more important than feeling good when I have the ability to build with something, yes, great?
David Gruder: So it’s sound like what you like to able to do has move very quickly from feeling frustrated to creating something good out of being challenged without having to spend much time feeling angry about it.
David Laroche: Yeah and the ability to thanks what happens and use it.
David Gruder: Yes.
David Laroche: And use it as a source of energy and power to build something.
David Gruder: What you describing is one of the key dimensions of integrity intelligence, which is the way to harvest gifts from unexpected or undesired like experiences.
David Laroche: Yeah.
David Gruder: I call it harvesting for that reason and so it’s sounds like what your goal is to develop a different relationship with the energy that comes up inside you that you are used to calling anger and that you get temporarily stuck in, and instead to have a different relationship with that energy that comes up inside you, so that you use it almost immediately for harvesting gifts from the unexpected and unasked for. Am I describing this accurately for you?
David Laroche: Yeah, yeah.
David Gruder: Okay, good, so on a scale of 0 to 10, how much do you believe in your ability to do that in those mornings when you are feeling frustrated and angry, zero meaning no that you don’t trust at all and ten means that you trust it completely.
David Laroche: 5 or 6.
David Gruder: 5 or 6, and of course you would like to feel it like it’s a 10, on a scale of 0 to 10.
David Laroche: Yeah.
David Gruder: So five or six is where we starting, okay and so what you will be repeating inside yourself is this desire to feel fully confident in my ability or you can use a different word like….this desire is to fully trust my ability to harvest gifts quickly when undesired experiences happen.
David Laroche: Yeah.
David Gruder: Yeah, or something like that in your own words, because you are just be repeating it yourself while where treating it and because French is your first language, I would suggest that you translate this ”en français” (in French), and repeat it “en français” [repeat in French], silently inside yourself. ”D’accord” [Okay?].
David Laroche: Yes.